Writer’s Write Blog Hop – The Pull

I felt the pull, like cords in charge of keeping you from bungeeing too far, the first time I referred to myself as a blogger. The cords were there to keep me safe. Protect me from the unknown. I understand that now.

What exactly qualified me as a blogger anyway? I mean, I had no real training. Only a few hours scoping out a site geared towards helping “wannabes” create their first blog.

The participants were encouraging. Very encouraging. But they knew what a blogger should look like. And, a real blogger didn’t have a free site. No, a real blogger bought a domain name, found a hosting company and learned how to tweak a theme beyond recognition.

A real blogger understood that content was king and that pictures were mandatory. A real blogger knew which plugins to install and, when their site slowed to a crawl, a real blogger knew which plugins to uninstall. A real blogger knew social media…well.

All I wanted to do was write. But it seemed you weren’t writing correctly if you weren’t writing with T’s crossed and I’s dotted. So, I learned how to write correctly. I mean, if everyone else is doing it this way…it must be the right way. Right? Doing it all, however, lead to my not wanting to do any of it.

My pictures were inconsistent and I couldn’t seem to get my life to revolve around keywords. Writing wasn’t suppose to be this hard. Obviously, I wasn’t qualified to be a blogger.

Deja Vue

That wasn’t my first experience with bungee cords, however. I felt them tighten around my mid-section as a teen when I wanted to be an artist and again, in my twenties, when I wanted to be a singer.

Always there to protect me. They pull me back long enough to see the bigger picture. I can’t leap without researching, without hearing all the rules and requirements from the experts. Right?

Art can’t be created by letting what’s on the inside manifest into something haphazard on the outside. Singing, I mean real singing, isn’t an exploration of your voice where notes start bad and just get better.

No, if you’re going to do it, you have to want to be the best at it. Right?

Go hard or go home. Right?

All or nothing. Right?

On Second Thought

The only thing between me and my writing, singing and art has been my fear of being told that my contribution isn’t enough. The fear that someone will say because I didn’t train with ______, attend _____ or know about _____, I’m not fit to play.

But that’s simply not true. God gave us our gifts, all of them, and no matter what, we’re fit to play. On any stage we desire. We’re also fit to get better along the way.

Wrapped in the cords of fear, however, our desire to contribute, willingness to learn as we go, ability to find others with which to share the journey and excitement for playing die.

We find doubt, naysayers and requirements when we allow the cord to pull us back, forcing us to look outward, instead of daring us to quiet the noise long enough to go inward. Right? Right.

Blog Hop Questions:

What am I working on/writing?
Over the last few years, my desire to assist women in corporate has greatly increased. As a result, I’ve been focused on creating resources that will help women identify their goals and assist them with charting the course to successfully attain those goals. Currently, I’m working on a novel about a young woman torn between the gifts in her dreams and the job in her reality, a self-awareness manual that brings attention to how our unconscious choices affect our long-term career goals and a teleclass aimed to help young women prepare for corporate careers.

How does my work/writing differ from others in its genre?
I find that I write best when I not only have a personal story to tell but a moral to the story as well. My consistency in blogging has suffered in the past because I find it difficult to write about situations where I lack full circle understanding. While I’m sure I’m not the only writer wired like this, I definitely think it sets my writing apart.

Why do I write what I do?
Through my writing I hope to help others. It’s important to me that women feel less alone when dealing with challenges so I share as much as I can. Whether I’m writing about life as a single mom, my day-to-day experiences or a challenge I faced while growing up in corporate America, I hope that it helps someone else.

How does my writing process work?
Actually, I could use a process.:) Currently, my muse visits while I’m doing some of the most mindless tasks possible. An idea might start in the shower, develop while I’m brushing my teeth and reach completion while I’m driving. Of course, this process makes it difficult to record my thoughts. And, while I try to scribble a bit here and there, many times, I’m writing full posts on my cellphone in the parking deck just before going heading into the office.

This blog hop was a major stretching of my cords and I’m thankful that Kim Jorgensen Gane invited me along and that the ladies below have taken this journey with me. You can find their posts next week:

Ruth Curran, MSRuth Curran, MS
Ruth’s passion and area of intense study is the connection between the brain and daily functioning. After years working in operations and corporate psychology, she built a business around using brain health as a way to increase engagement. She created a series of white-labeled, customizable, photo-based thinking puzzles, games, and Apps and writes about brain healthy living. Ruth’s primary focus is on using games and “play” to inspire people to imagine, use strategies, and focus as a path to better thinking, better functioning, and better quality of life.

Ruth writes about everyday brain health – turning everyday activities into brain boosters — on one of the two blogs on Cranium Crunches site and building a better brain through purposeful activities on the other. Ruth believes that everyone – no matter the stage of life – has the power to harness and use neuroplasticity to live a richer, deeper, and fuller life.

Ruth Curran, MS
Chelle RamseyAn avid reader since her primary years, Chelle Ramsey saw books as an escape mechanism. Excited by the worlds, and characters that could be created with a touch of the imagination, she began writing her own stories at the age of 12. The more enamored with storytelling she became, the more she wanted to create stories about the suffering, and hardships she saw others enduring, with one twist…her characters would rise above their adversities and limitations, but not always with traditional endings.
This busy wife, and mother of three, exchanged her Girl Scout Leader pins for her creative writing pen, as she began to focus on publishing her novels. In her spare time, when she isn’t writing, she enjoys reading mystery novels, watching the NBA, remodeling their home with her husband, and spending time with him and their children. Having an MBA in Human Resource Management, she says she cannot wait for the day when writing becomes her full-time career. “If I can show my readers they are not alone, in dealing with their challenges, and that they can rise above their limitations, I have achieved my goal,” Ramsey says.

Contact Info:
Website: www.cmichelleramsey.com
FB: Author Chelle Ramsey
Twitter: @ChellesBooks
Pinterest: ChellesBooks
Blog: www.writingmydreams.com


Corinne RodriguesA Mumbai-based blogger, writer, motivator – journeying happily through midlife. Corinne Rodrigues blogs at Everyday Gyaan, Write Tribe and From 7Eight. Connect with her on Facebook, Twitter and Google+






  1. THANK you for carrying the torch so eloquently, Sabrina! Love the chords metaphor, and I hope you and I will get to do karaoke together someday. xo

  2. Ruth Curran says:

    That brilliant piece of writing is going to be a hard act to follow! Thank you for sharing your heart and inspiring us with your process!

  3. Laurel Regan says:

    You inspire me as always, Sabrina. Thank you.
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  4. […] Today, the very lovely Sabrina Lovejoy of Much Needed Advice has invited me to be a part of this blog hop to talk about my writing. Do read her post here. […]

  5. I’m very pleased to meet you Sabrina. I was lucky that when i entered blogland, I didn’t bother to learn the rules. Later though, I met the “experts” who all said how it should be done ( and I was not doing it as recommended.) I think I do better when I ignore them and do what feels natural to me. Every time I’ve been a follower against my instincts, the words dried up.. or the blog started feeling like it’s not mine.

    • Sabrina says:

      You were wise beyond your years. I tend to research too much. “Every time I’ve been a follower against my instinct, the words dry up…” Yes, exactly! Thanks for visiting, Damaria.

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