Happy New Year (in September)

This post, originally entitled “The Best Time to Start a New Year,” made its debut on 01/06/2012. I decided to share this post again because, currently, I feel as thought I’m drowning in committment. I needed to be reminded that it’s never too late to hit the ‘restart’ button. I hope this serves as a great reminder for you as well.

With all the talk about New Year Resolutions being ditched by mid January, it’s no wonder we don’t stick to them. It seems if you fall of the bandwagon anytime before the 365th day you’re whisked away to Failure jail until January 1st.

The reason behind making resolutions, let’s just call them goals, is to do something different. And, since it’s highly unlikely that you can do any new thing perfectly, you should allow some room for error. Very seldom can I get 24 hours right so you can only imagine how much damage I can do to 8,760 of them.

Last year, however, I adopted the idea of starting a new year whenever I want. Who says my 365 has to start on Jan. 1st? Why can’t it start (or start over) on any date I choose. Someone, somewhere decided the mention of .2422 of a day wasn’t necessary so why do I have to go a full 365 days? Maybe I want to tally up my success and failures at the half-year mark, have a toast and head out the stables again.

Party for 1

Grant it, the whole world won’t wish me Happy New Year multiple times a year, all of Atlanta won’t meet me downtown for the peach drop and my employer won’t give me that day off but that’s really not the point.

The point is I draw a line in the sand. I say enough is enough. I want deserve better. And, by George, I can do that at anytime I darn well see fit.


Besides, have you ever noticed that goals are seldom ready to take on road? They need tweaking, reevaluation and…yes…sometimes, even put to the side for a short time. (Gasp!)

There have been some goals that I’ve agreed to only because someone else said, “Hey, let’s….” but, since my heart wasn’t in it, I eventually discarded it altogether. But that doesn’t mean that I am no longer worthy of the right to create a goal. It simply means my goals have to really mean something to me. Bright and shine, even if a group is going, isn’t normally enough.

Success by design

I’m more successful when I see each day as an opportunity to learn more about me. What I like, what I want, who I want around me (and for how long :)),and who I want to be when I grow up is all data that’s constantly being downloaded. I can’t possibly wait to until next Jan 1st to implement what I know works today.

I will always be about the buzz and excitement of a new year but, before that date, I’ll have logged many do overs and successes. Besides, this year, there’s 366 days…I won’t wait that long to celebrate new opportunities.

Please share…

As far as your goals are concerned, have you ever decided midway (or earlier) during the year to change directions? If so, what happened? If not, are you willing to try it this year?

Recipe for Living

Without commitment, courage & consistency, I wouldn't be here.


This was originally share in my Requirements for Growth post on 12/11/2013.

NaBloPoMo – The Halfway Mark

If you’ve committed to National Blog Posting Month (NaBloPoMo) for September, congratulations, you have made it pass the halfway mark. During this month, you probably realized that life kicks it into high gear when you make a commit to yourself. I’m sure you were given more than a few really good reasons to throw in the towel and consider trying again next month. But you haven’t…great job!

Sticking with it means you’re learning valuable lessons. Blogging everyday not only improves your writing, it improves your ability to remember to do something for yourself. So see, this is bigger than writing, prompts and clicks. It’s all about you. By committing to publish everyday, you put yourself first and that’s a pretty big payoff.


I’m Still Praying for You

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Don’t Miss the Next Big Thing, Crying Over the Last

White Wave Moth

White Wave Moth

Can you see it? Yeah, well, it was the best I could do.

I noticed it as soon as I walk outside this morning on my way to get coffee. It was so stunning, I couldn’t resist taking a picture.

My guess is it showed up last night and, finding the ceiling of my porch safe from predators, decided to stay. It’s probably the whitest moth I’ve ever seen. But, no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t capture its beauty.

Alternating between the camera on my phone and my Sony Cyber-shot QX10, I zoomed, tinkered with the settings and fought to steady my hand but couldn’t get a good picture. After about 15 minutes, I finally gave up.

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In my car, I disconnected the Cyber-shot, turned on the Bluetooth, pouted about the moth I couldn’t do justice and slowly headed towards the exit of my subdivision.

My life is full of missed nature shots like this, I thought.  The hawk perched on the light pole, the piercing eyes of a big brown owl, the hummingbird that taunted me from the window of a recent writer’s group and the three geese that took flight alongside my car just as I passed them, cause me to wish I was somewhere nearby waiting patiently with my camera.

Still in my thoughts and fumbling with gadgets, I heard a subtle thump on the windshield. I looked up to find a yellow and black wasp trying desperately to escape. It was at least an inch long and, somehow, it had managed to land on its back.

Wings flapping furiously, the wasp found itself pinned to the middle of my windshield by the oncoming wind. Unsure how to help, I slowly applied the brakes, reached for my phone and watched as the traction from its wings caused it to slide toward the roof of the car and out of sight.

With all of this happening in a matter of seconds, I didn’t have time to restart the camera. I only had time to experience the moment. The intensity of the wasp’s fight, the effects of the wind on something so small and to observe this event from the safely of my car was priceless. Maybe, in actuality, I don’t have a host of missed shots, but a plethora of beautiful experiences.

This was a wonderful example of how opportunities are consistently presenting themselves  throughout the day. Whether we deem them perfect for us (giving us a sense of peace) or we consider them a threat (causing us to fighting in an effort to get away), they all carry an element of beauty worth acknowledging.

And, the white moth? Well, it’s still in the same spot it was this morning. I’m no longer interested in capturing a better picture of it, however. Now that I think about it, I saw and experienced a lot of beautiful things today.

Is it possible that you’re so consumed with the last great thing that you’re missing the next great thing? Don’t worry, there’s more greatness where that came from. You just have to expect it.

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